Polly Esther Girl (battle_maiden) wrote in chautauqua,
Polly Esther Girl

To cheat or not to cheat

This is something I read in a friend's journal: Is it cheating if you are being paid for it? Which also raises the question: Is it cheating if you pay for it?

The male point of view seems to be that it is neither cheating if you are being paid or paying for it. I can't say I'm surprised about this but it does make me wonder about how many of them actually do it.

My opinion is that if you are with anyone besides your partner, no matter the circumstance, it is cheating. And I've never understood the whole 'open-relationship' thing. If you like someone enough to want to be in a relationship with them why would you want to be with anyone else?
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There is this interesting thing about japanese culture, where it is okay for a husband or wife to have sex outside of marriage as long as he/she paid for it. That way it's just about sex and not about love. I wouldn't really mind as much if my boyfriend got a stripper or a prostitute as I would if it was some girl he met and slept with. Because then he was just horny, he wasn't in love with someone else.
Yes, but in that respect he can also pick-up whoever he likes and if he puts $10 on her nightstand as he leaves it's ok. I would never allow a boyfriend to be doing anything sexual with another girl while with me. If he's horny he can come to me, otherwise he can find another g/f.
Agreed. It's me, and only me. Or it's the damn door.
If there is something you want to do and you don't know if it's cheating or not, picture your precious doing it. If you don't mind, then it's not cheating.

This is assuming the two people know that they have an equal understanding of boundaries. If they don't, and they're wondering what's cheating, and they won't talk about it, then just go ahead because it's going to fall apart anyway.
I agree with you but I think that guys like to believe it's not cheating so that they don't need to feel guilty about doing it.